I think that one of the emotions that everyone has felt at some point or can relate to on some level is disappointment.
Whenever we do something in life with an expectation of how we’d like it to turn out, we risk experiencing disappointment. When things don’t go the way we had envisioned, we may feel a range of emotions from slightly let down to depressed or even angry. We might direct our feelings inward toward ourselves, or outward toward other people or the universe in general. Whether we feel disappointed by ourselves, a friend, or life in general, disappointment is always a tough feeling to experience. Still, it is a natural part of life, and there are many ways of dealing with it when we find ourselves in its presence.
The gift of disappointment is to bring us into reality so we don’t get stuck in the realm of how things might have been.
As with any feeling, disappointment has come to us for a reason, and we don’t need to fear acknowledging it or feeling it. The more we are able to accept how we are feeling and process it, the sooner we will move into new emotional territory. As we sit down to allow ourselves to feel our disappointment, we might want to write about the experience of being disappointed—the situation that preceded it, what we were hoping would happen, and what did happen. The gift of disappointment is its ability to bring us into alignment with our current reality so that we don’t get stuck for too long reliving the past, or making up scenarios that could have or should have happened instead.
As we consider other “disappointments” in our life and how we have moved past them, we may even see that in some cases what happened was actually better in the long run than what we had wanted to happen. Acknowledging the truth, that things don’t always turn out the way we want, can feel a bit deflating if you let it. The beauty of disappointment, though, is that it provides us a bridge to its other side where the acceptance of reality, wisdom, and the energy to begin again can be found.